So simple. Yet so easy to live a life of expectancy rather than a life of gratitude. I’ve been so intentional recently about being grateful for every single beautiful thing in my life. Past, present, and future. I’m even grateful for the really low moments. Without them, I wouldn’t have been able to grow into the person I am today.
A few weeks ago, I’d been feeling a lot of anxiety about my future…so I thought I would try something new. When I wake up, I started to write down what I’m grateful for:
Comfy sheets and a warm bed.
My morning cup of coffee.
A vehicle that runs well and takes me to work every day.
My fur babies who bring me so much joy.
My friends & family who are always there for me.
You get the point.
Soon enough, it became a habit for me to just always remind myself what I am grateful for. I got to the point where I would just count things out in my head all day long and it became natural. Things around me started changing. I started changing. My perspective is different. Especially when I start to feel anxiety creeping back in I do this:
I start out by telling myself, “Gianna…you do not have to have it all figured out right now. Everything is okay. Look at all of the things YOU DO have to be grateful for. Focus on that. The rest will come later.”
It sounds so easy…but it’s really not and I won’t sugar coat it for you. These days, we EXPECT everything. There are distractions everywhere and we take things for granted. We take LIVING for granted for heaven’s sake. It takes time..and a lot of practice before it becomes a habit. But I promise you…when you become intentional with counting your blessings, you will see a shift in your life. Gratitude will help you fall in love with the life you already have instead of wishing for a life that isn’t yours. You will begin to cut out the negativity and rewire your brain.
“Gratitude is a prerequisite to happiness. When what I have now is enough, it becomes more than enough,and I open myself up to receive more.I am grateful for the ups and downs. Everything has contributed to who I am. Today, I express gratitude for it all.”
I challenge you to practice this. I hope you will find comfort in my words and advice as this is one of the strategies I use every day and it brings me happiness. I hope to pass that along to you, as well.
Let’s start with the obvious…Monday is typically not everyone’s favorite day. For most of us, it’s back to the grind at our 9-5 jobs for the next 5 days. We are tired. We are heavily caffeinated. We are already counting down the minutes until Friday…So how do we make Monday’s feel a little less “ugh” ?!
First things first…you woke up and you are ALIVE! That’s totally something to celebrate. I know Negative Nancy over there is rolling her eyes right now, but stay with me! So it’s definitely easier to look at your Monday and feel a sense of grief. There’s all of these funny memes all over Facebook EVERY Sunday night that are all reminding you of the inevitable: The weekend is over and it is time to wake up at the crack of dawn tomorrow morning… and be an adult. Bleh. But here’s the thing: It’s literally imprinted into your brain to hate Monday’s. You don’t have to give them such a bad rep just because the social norm says you should.
First thing first, we need to change our mindsets. We’re going to train our brains to think differently. I read something somewhere that really spoke to me.
Instead of saying “I have to go to work, I have to go to school, I have to etc.” …Start saying “I get to.”
See, if we train our minds to think positively and practice having gratitude…the whole game changes! I GET TO wake up today and go to work. I GET TO have the chance to be a better person than I was yesterday. I GET TO go to school to further my education for my future. The list goes on and on.
Other things you can do to make your Monday a little less scary is to make sure you prepare for your week on Sunday night. Write down your intentions and goals for the upcoming week so you can refer back to it for guidance. Wake up early and have your coffee/tea and throw on a positive podcast!
Folks, the name of the game here is to stop taking your life for granted! Start to practice gratitude over the little things and see how much of a difference that makes in your attitude. Some people didn’t get to wake up today and have the chance to do things that YOU are dreading. Some people would kill to have the Monday you are experiencing right now. Don’t waste your life waiting for the weekend. I know it’s cliche but every single day you wake up is truly a gift. Happy Monday! Until next time.
I know you need to hear this today: I’m proud of you. I see how beautiful your heart is even though it is often heavy. I love how you compliment everyone you meet..and you truly mean the kind things you say. You are so loving even though life hasn’t been the kindest to you. You’ve climbed some of the tallest mountains and you are still standing. Still trekking onward. The smile you wear is contagious, please don’t be ashamed of it. Yes..I know your teeth are big but it gives you character, and people feel your warmth when you show it.
You are bold, wild and beautiful. You feel things so deeply it can be overwhelming at times. It is not a curse, and I believe you will find a way to balance all of the intense feelings. Show yourself some patience. How is it that you are so willing to give others patience…but you constantly feel the need to rush yourself? You are doing just fine. Breathe!!! Start reading more of those self help books you love! Start painting “happy little trees” with Bob Ross again. Take more time to do the things YOU love. I know you feel like you have to please everybody and go along with their plans…but you are depriving yourself of what your soul needs to be at peace. As long as you take care of your heart, the rest will fall into place.
Oh, and you’re a pretty f**king great human being in case you forgot.
I’m 22 years young, living in Delco… if you know anything about Delco, it’s that we are a very special breed of humans. I decided to start a blog to share my thoughts with others, in hopes to connect and inspire people. After all, we are all on this crazy ride called life—together. Am I right?!
I’ll be sharing all of my thoughts on here. The good, the bad and the ugly. How I navigate through life with anxiety, what I’m up to, and what I do to stay positive through it all. I think keeping a public journal is something we all can benefit from. No matter how different we all are, we all feel things and we can connect/relate to each other through emotions. I can’t wait to get to know you!!